While writing my book, I had to decide on a title of one of chapters that dealt with my inner breakdowns and emotional chaos and despair. Some call it the ‘dark night of the soul.’
What Iearned was that many of us need to break down and crack our hearts wide open to allow past traumas and pain to come to the surface to be released. Holding it in simply creates pressure…and if that pressure is not released it causes a mental or emotional eruption that leaves one feeling like they have lost all semblence of sanity.
The good news is, that eruption is ok. It’s a signal that you need to release and take the steps to heal. The healing isn’t always immediate, and it often means some pretty drastic and difficult inner work.
I am reminded of the Japanese art of Kintsugi. Kintsugi consists of repairing cracked pottery with resin infused with gold. The piece that was broken became MORE beautiful after it cracked open, and the resulting repair added a glimmer that was there before.
This is how we are. Once we are broken open and start the healing process, we shine with that golden restorative glow that we didn’t have before.
For many, shattering is the best thing that can happen.