Creating Treasures from Trauma


treasure-boxThat title caught your eye, didn’t it?

No, I’m not making light of anyone’s personal traumas. However, I invite you to look into the gifts that trauma or painful situations bring.

When an animal has passed on, it’s hide is used to create a drum. Shamanic drums, for example, are created from hides that have been blessed (and a prayer or chant of gratitude is given to the animal, as well as to the other materials involved).

The animal’s passing, whether intentional or not, created a beautiful instrument that would be used in spiritual and healing rituals. When I envision this, I see the animal’s essence connecting to the divine and creating a healing vibration, felt physically and spiritually.

Consider the oyster. When an irritant works its way inside the shell, the oyster will protect itself by secreting layers of nacre onto the irritant. It takes a while, it’s a process, but the end result is a beautiful pearl.

But what about humanity? Where can we find the treasures from our own traumas? (Click to Tweet)

Personally, I can tell you that traumatic situations are not easy, nor comfortable. Your life has been turned upside down and you don’t know which way you are going. You feel lost, scared, and all you can see around you is a dark tunnel in which you feel every painful emotion like a knife in the heart…and you have no idea when it will stop.

You lose your balance. You’ve lost all sense of purpose. You can’t even see your next step. You shout at the powers that be, “WHY!??!!” Your soul seems to be lost in a constant scream of despair.

You wonder what you will do now. Sometimes you stumble blindly, sometimes you fall. Sometimes you are able to pick yourself back up. (And when you can’t, someone usually shows up to help you.)

But then, when you least expect it, a little sliver of light appears. It gradually (over time) grows larger and larger. You find that you had the strength to stand after all. Then, you realize that there are moments appearing that spark a little joy.

Teachers (in all forms) appear. They could be humans, or animals, or even Divine beings. Additionally, teachers appear in the form of art, books and music.

In fact, you could be sitting at a coffee shop and overhear a particularly enlightening conversation or phrase that is just what you needed to hear at that moment.

What are the treasures, then?

Ahhh, here’s the beauty of alchemy. I learned to turn: fear into courage

anger into calmness

self doubt into empowerment

sadness into joy

rejection into self-love

despair into faith

It didn’t happen overnight. It took years, actually. Many years.

However, the most prized treasure I received was the ability to be grateful for every moment I lived in that dark underbelly of the beast. Gratitude for every baby step I took, for every slip and fall, and gratitude for the strength that I found inside me.

I even found gratitude for every abuse heaped upon me and every awful thing said or done to me. Gratitude even toward those strangers who thought that I deserved to be treated less than the extraordinary being that I AM.

No matter what you may be going through at this time, know that treasures abound, physically, mentally, and spiritually.

What is in YOUR treasure box?

It’s Time To Move Beyond “Him” vs. “Her”


 

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The past couple days I’ve been in an interesting group conversation. The question was (and I’m paraphrasing the gentleman’s question), “To all the women on here, I want to know why you feel you deserve a good man.”

Now, generally I would have just passed on by and left it alone, but I found that I was curious about the answers I’d find. The first person to reply was a gentleman, who pretty much stated that “American women do not like to answer questions,” and then he added another derogatory comment that I shall leave out. Yes, I’m pretty sure he was wanting to start something, and yes, quite a few women replied.

At first, the answers were about wanting someone who supports, loves, encourages them, who won’t try to change them, etc. It then changed to one of the men asking, “Then why do you try to tell us who we can see or where we cannot go, because you think it is disrespectful to you?”

So, the women answered, and then Gentleman #1 piped in again (from here on out, I’ll call him #1), “Sir, not 1 American woman answered your question.” It was definitely getting interesting!

#1 kept on going, poking and prodding at the women who answered, even being quite disrespectful and rude toward women of color, women of a certain size, and woman of a certain nationality. Yes, you guessed it, he pushed my trigger button! Of course, I felt led to contribute to the conversation after that.

This was my first reply:

“There’s no definitive single answer. Everyone is different, with varying needs, wants, and preferences. I often see comments about “where are the good men” and “where are the good women.” Well, where are you looking, how are you behaving, and what have you been brainwashed to believe? How many people actually work on themselves first so that they can actually be a solid partner in an empowering relationship? Ideals change. Yet, what will it take to create a society that thrives on healthy, supportive relationships? I’ve got a few hints: eradicate jealousy (jealousy is simply insecurity and fear of loss), control, entitlement, unequally yoked partnerships (meaning, it’s half and half, not you give 10% and I give 90%). Come from a place of, “how can I BE that will encourage the both of us to grow and evolve?” Get rid of the silly “ownership” – it would be quite ridiculous to think that I could be 100% of what anyone needs, and it would be unfair of me to expect that from another. I would NEVER tell a partner what he/she would be allowed to do, wear, be, who they could be with, when, where, or how. So to answer your question, why do I deserve a good man? (Well, we all deserve a good man/woman, right?) … because I (everyone) deserve the experience of partnering with someone who is a mirror and helps me to see the real me, who helps me grow, who lets me give myself permission to be me with no apologies. The question maybe should be, “How are you BEING, what are you doing to empower yourself that will attract the one who wants to share that experience with you?”

#1 answered me, stating that I did not answer the question. I referred him back to the last part of my answer. Apparently that triggered HIM. He replied with a long paragraph, that has in the past 30 minutes been deleted, so I will do my best to remember what he said, and will share my answers. I will separate them into ‘conversation’ form for ease of reading.

I am not doing this to shame him, I am sharing this conversation because I recognize someone who is operating from a standpoint of “him vs. her,” not from a place of unconditional, conscious love, support, and acceptance. So, here goes:

 

#1: I can look in a garbage can for a sandwich, and maybe find a good one. I went to a pastor, he said, “Come to my church, you’ll find a woman.” So I dated a black woman and a white woman, the pastor said that he’d pay the women if they got me to give my money to the church.” I went looking for an apple and I bit into one with a worm. All women want a weak man, they don’t want strong men because they don’t want to be strong themselves.

Me: Aaaand it appears that you are judging ALL women by the bad apples you seem to have taken a bite of. (I am not calling anyone bad, I am alluding to the experiences themselves.)

#1: America needs to get rid of feminism. That’s the problem. That’s why almost all American men look for women in other countries.

Me: The men that I know are feminists. They are strong, they adore women who are strong themselves. The men I know and associate with support their strong women, and they hunger for a partnership with a woman who knows her place…as a leader, as a feminist, as a partner who shows him who HE truly is. And who gives a *&^% if men look for women in other countries? Women do, also. It’s refreshing (sometimes) to look past boundaries and citizenship and race.

#1: All women want is a man’s DNA so she can get child support. Where’s the equality in that?

Me: Sure, often men get the short end of the stick, but it’s not always the case. And a woman who attaches herself to a man who is of a lower consciousness and energy than she also has a lot to lose, including her self identity. You talk from a place of women are crap, and men are the losers in the game. You are talking from a place of “them” against “us.” You say you are looking looking, going, you are taking all this action and still not finding the right one. You appear to be focusing on “there are no good women.” Well, if that is where your energy is going, that is what your result will be and who you will attract. Sometimes the best way to find that perfect partner is to work on yourself first, stop looking, and allow that person to appear….when you have changed your outlook.

#1: Relationships have to have a boss. (In other words, woman, step down and get back in your place.)

Me: You say relationships are business, there has to be a boss…. I say, that is absolutely untrue. Relationships are PARTNERSHIPS, equality. Each partner has their own strengths they bring to the relationship, but to assign a ‘boss’ in the relationship? That is basically saying one is higher than the other, the other must be subservient, and is “less than.” I disagree with that wholeheartedly. That is the reason so many relationships fail or are unhappy. Because the one who is not the ‘boss’ ends up feeling less worthy. No, it’s equal everything. And a REAL partnership is one where each brings their own gifts and strengths to the table, each one uplifts and helps the other grow and supports each other, and gets their EGO out of the way. Men are just waking up, but some are realizing that the feminine is a very strong energy, and when the masculine stops doing everything in its power to keep the feminine beaten down and less than, when the masculine supports instead of divides, when the masculine stops fighting and helps the feminine in realizing who she REALLY is and both come together in perfect union as 2 wholes creating a more beautiful whole, then this world would be a better place.

#1: Women don’t want men to be real men.

Me: You say women don’t want mean to be real men? Women who are awake and conscious want exactly that. Both have a lot of work to do in recognizing the divine in each other, to recognize and accept each other’s strengths. There is so much jealousy, bigotry, control, him vs. her, them vs. us, there are so many people hurting and not working on healing the pain before they get into relationships because they think the relationship will heal them. That’s backwards. Everyone needs to just stop, take a few minutes to work on themselves, to grow, to wake up, to remember who they really are, and stop buying into the societal bullshit that runs on division instead of cooperation.

#1: It’s ridiculous for any man to think of marrying an American woman.

Me: Ridiculous for a man to think of marrying an American woman? Forget the citizenship status, in every single country on this entire planet, there are people who are asleep and in messed up relationships, and who subscribe to partnerships and marriages that are unhealthy. Boundaries, color, race mean nothing. In some countries it’s societal and fundamental religious control, it’s outrage at the freedoms of others, it’s “the man should control the woman” bs.

It’s ok though. Not everyone is on the same page, and still many have to come to a point where they are ready for a Conscious relationship based on mutual trust, freedom, evolution, support, love, and acceptance.  

I know who I am. I accept and love everyone unconditionally. I support those who are still growing. I embrace everyone 100%. I ignore color, race, sexual orientation, gender, social status. I look beyond all of that and I see them for who they really are, a part of the Divine expressing Itself as them. Do I connect with all who reach out to me? No, because I know that I desire someone who is on the same page spiritually and mentally; someone who sees me for who I AM, and who supports me in the way that best allows me to expand and fly higher. Someone who sees my visions and encourages me to fly, who will also be there when I come back down. Someone who is not threatened by my strength and power, someone who will NOT beat me down to satisfy their egotistic urge to control and rule over me, because they are too frightened to wake up to their own power.

In return, I support them in their endeavors, in their own growth. I encourage creativity, freedom, evolution. I desire relationships where we see each other as mirrors, where we meet on mutual ground and together do what it takes to hold each other up. When I allow the other to be free, to express him or herself, to connect with others from the standpoint of mutual joy and growth, then I also get to benefit from that.

Do I actively look for relationships? No. Everything flows to me. When I work on myself, when I stop trying to force things, when I relax, everything comes to me perfectly. Some relationships last a few minutes, some a few days, some a few weeks, some a few years. And I accept that. Who says a relationship MUST last forever? That’s a lie. We grow, we evolve, and we must be strong enough to let those we love go so that they may continue their journey which may or may not include us. And we let them go with love, instead of trying to hang on or control with egoistic little claws. Some societies have the norm where the man is in control, the woman must submit, and she must do as he bids. Some women accept that as the norm. But it won’t always be that way. The planet is waking up.

People are slowly healing from the abuse and control, and they are realizing that there are relationships that are more empowering. It won’t change overnight, but it is changing.

Again, this post is not meant to shame someone for what they believe. My purpose is to open eyes, to help us ALL to remember that we all make mistakes, we all have outdated beliefs that no longer serve ourselves, each other, and humanity…we all have healing to do, and we all deserve Conscious relationships that encourage us to grow, where we can support each other wholeheartedly, practice unconditional love, and give each other the freedom to BE who we are, as well as allowing us to give ourselves permission to live our truth.

Hemp: “Don’t Tread On Me!”


The phrase ‘Don’t Tread On Me’ was a phrase on the Gadsden Flag. To better understand this, let’s take a little history lesson.

The Gadsden Flag was a flag from the earlier part of American history, named after American General Christopher Gadsden. It was bright yellow with an image of a rattlesnake on it, and the words ‘Don’t Tread On Me’ were below the snake. The main principle of the flag was unity.

In an original drawing by Benjamin Franklin (which was the country’s first political cartoon), the rattlesnake was cut into pieces, each symbolizing the original colonies, and had the words ‘Join or Die’ below the pieces of the snake.

I recollected that her eye excelled in brightness, that of any other animal, and that she has no eye-lids—She may therefore be esteemed an emblem of vigilance.—She never begins an attack, nor, when once engaged, ever surrenders: She is therefore an emblem of magnanimity and true courage.—As if anxious to prevent all pretensions of quarreling with her, the weapons with which nature has furnished her, she conceals in the roof of her mouth, so that, to those who are unacquainted with her, she appears to be a most defenseless animal; and even when those weapons are shewn and extended for her defense, they appear weak and contemptible; but their wounds however small, are decisive and fatal:—Conscious of this, she never wounds till she has generously given notice, even to her enemy, and cautioned him against the danger of stepping on her.—Was I wrong, Sir, in thinking this a strong picture of the temper and conduct of America?” (Benjamin Franklin)

In fall 1775, the United States Navy was established to intercept incoming British ships carrying war supplies to the British troops in the colonies. To aid in this, the Second Continental Congress authorized the mustering of five companies of Marines to accompany the Navy on their first mission. The first Marines enlisted in the city of Philadelphia and they carried drums painted yellow, depicting a coiled rattlesnake with thirteen rattles, and the motto “Don’t Tread On Me.” This is the first recorded mention of the future Gadsden flag’s symbolism.” (Wikipedia)

This flag was later replace with Old Glory.

Here is the significance of the Gadsden Flag – it meant ‘Don’t mess with us!’ It was a symbol of unity between the colonies. The rattlesnake symbolizes reputation and respect.

Of course there is more to it than that, in that a rattlesnake will fight back when threatened, even after a warning with the rattles. It keeps a sharp eye and weighs the situation carefully.

So, now you are probably asking why I chose to blend the Gadsden Flag with the topic of hemp?

It’s quite simple. Hemp has been walked on, stomped on, tread on. Hemp has been demonized by corporations and the government in the name of greed, to protect investments in oil, pharmaceuticals, timber, chemicals, and synthetics. It was given a bad reputation through ugly UNTRUE propaganda. Hemp has been ostracized through lies and deliberate misconceptions.

This wonderful plant that feeds us, houses us, clothes us, heals us…this plant that heals our environment and can create jobs and boost our economy is banned where it once flourished and was revered for it’s strength and diversity.

Those of us who believe in the power of hemp, this perfect plant that nature has given us, are uniting in the knowledge that hemp WILL be a LEGAL part of our economy again. It is through education and making our voices heard that we are taking the steps needed to allow this plant to flourish on American soil once again. Will it happen overnight? No. But that is ok. Each step takes time. But there WILL  be a time when hemp will rise above…

And not be tread on any more.

Hemp Helps Prevent Osteoporosis


Osteoporosis is a condition that affects nearly 40 million people in the U.S. It affects half of women and a quarter of men. Osteoporosis is a bone density reduction that causes increased instances of fractures and breaks.

What causes osteoporosis? Osteoporosis is caused by several factors. In women, one factor is low estrogen. In men, it’s low testosterone. For BOTH sexes it is caused by lack of calcium, lack of vitamin D, and sedentary lifestyle, medications, and illness.

An excellent way to supplement the vitamin D and calcium is by adding hemp seeds and hemp seed oil to the diet. Hemp is full of amino acids, vitamins, minerals and essential fatty acids.

The essential fatty acids in hemp help with absorption of the calcium and vitamin D and aid in bone growth and calcification, and reduce calcium excretion in the urine (calcium loss and excretion through the urine can also cause kidney stones).

Daily exercise, stopping smoking, and eating a healthy diet rich in hemp seeds and hemp seed oil can prevent osteoporosis.

Hemp – your bones will love it!