How to Keep Balance in Turbulent Times


jump-863058_1920It’s quite obvious that nowadays, life all over the planet has taken a turn in an interesting direction.

Without investing a lot of time on the havoc that appears to be at hand (job losses, illness, stress, anxiety, fear, lack of movement), it would be well to note that in the midst of the turmoil lie pockets of peace, community compassion and a sense of togetherness (even in the presence of separation).

So, how can we separate ourselves from the anxiety, worry and fear that is every pervasive? Clearly, some are having a more difficult time than others; but let’s look at some practices that can help smooth the bumpy ride.

1.Remain present.

I know, trust me, sometimes this can be a challenge, especially when we are deep in our minds and overthinking, processing, and analyzing. Worrying about “what ifs” can certainly take us out of the present.

Focus on the now. It is important that we stop and breathe. For example: I meditate every day for at least an hour. I tell my mind that it is free to let go of worrying thoughts and insecure feelings about the future. All those will be available after meditation, if it wants to pick them up again. (Usually, it doesn’t.)

During meditation, my mind is never completely empty for an hour. I only wish! However, I do focus on my breathing, practice breathwork, and go deep inside.

This past week, I’ve been meditating outside in the sun. I currently live in a townhouse, so there are neighbors and noises on both sides of me in the courtyards. One gentleman next door has a puppy (oh, how I wish I had a significant other that would talk to me like he does to that precious little furbaby, but I digress); I can easily remain present meditating in non-silent surroundings. I invite the sounds of nature to chime in – bees buzzing, insects flying, songbirds chirping, and seagulls crying.

I feel the warm, smooth wood of the deck under my bare feet. I take notice of the warm the sun is giving me as it shines down onto my skin. Sometimes, I imagine the flowers communicating amongst themselves. Now, even though this is going on around me and inside me, I am still able to be present. (And nature always takes precedence in my thoughts over politics and other lower energy situations.)

After meditating, I strive to take that peace and presence with me throughout the rest of my day and stay in the knowing that all really is well. Sometimes I’m bouncing all over the place. However, I always go back “home” to the present, breathe, and remind myself that there is only NOW.

2.Remain in the flow.

Life is energy. It naturally ebbs and flows.

Think of the tides, sunrise/sunset, moonrise/moonset, birth/transition/rebirth, storms and fair weather, summer/winter, planting/harvest, gain/loss. All of life moves in waves.

Part of our journey is embracing the ability to ride the waves, no matter how small or large they may be. This requires patience. It also gives us the opportunity to release an expectation of outcomes. This may be a bit challenging for some (me), as I do like to be in control.

Nevertheless, there is some comfort in the knowledge that everything changes, moves and flows. And there is some solace that the only true permanent aspect we can rely on is change.

Think of it this way, we are all surfing through this moment in time, and we get to practice riding the waves standing up, sitting down, and we even get to fall once in a while. And it’s all right.

3.Journal.

No! It’s not silly! I do it! (Yes, I do! Every day!)

Journaling is a wonderful way to express our feelings, especially if we feel we don’t have the supportive ear of someone who understands.

Writing down our worries or stresses releases them from our body; it also gives us a chance to go back and see where those emotions are coming from.

It may be that we have some inner healing to do; perhaps there are some triggers that need to be addressed from childhood. It is possible that difficulty staying balanced during these current times could stem from fears and anxieties that have yet to be brought to the surface, processed, and released.

Additionally, for me, writing allows me to come up with solutions for issues that I would like answers for. Often, while writing, I’ll get a sudden inspiration or resolution for something that I’ve been wanting an answer for.

Sometimes it’s an instant “how to,” or a topic I need to address, or a long-hidden memory that has created an unhealthy filter through which I may be looking through.

Journaling, in a sense, helps me wash my dirty windows so that I can see, think, and feel from a space of deeper clarity.

Remember, the energy you put forth creates your reality. YOU are the creator…of the present and the future. YOU get to decide if you want to practice the art of balance. And no one will judge you for it.

It’s your journey.

Enjoy!

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My Story Is About To Be Told!


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“Tear down the walls you’ve built up to hide your magnificent self.

The world craves to know you, to taste you, to feel you, to experience you.

Live your truth, bask in it, embrace it.

Be large and be wild…about YOU!”

Becca Inspires

 

Over the past several years I’ve had a few friends tell me, “You should write your story!” At first I laughed it off. I mean, really? Who wants to read about my struggles and triumphs? I’ve not done anything that warrants fame, nor have I done anything that places me in the halls of infamy…so why on EARTH would anyone be interested in what I have to say?

Fast forward to last year.

I was in a conversation with an acquaintance, and we were talking about life, and how bumps in the road appear and how we need to get over those bumps, or climb out of the potholes. He said a few things to me that I took as less than kind, and even though my life is not his business, I could feel his anger toward me (perhaps that was his way of showing concern, but it certainly felt less than compassionate). We also chit-chatted about some of my posts on Facebook, and how it was my goal to inspire others, mainly through writing.

I was told (I am paraphrasing here) that I had not reached the ‘enlightened’ stage yet, and until I was, I was in no way capable of writing a book that could inspire others on their journey. I had the sense that he was wanting to make me out to be a hypocrite! There was more said, but you’ve got the gist of the conversation.

That exchange fueled me and lit a fire under me! The next day I had a large portion of the outline done for my memoir, as well as a good portion of the body of the transcript. How dare someone tell me I can’t do something because I’m not ‘there’ yet, or good enough? He had never walked a centimeter in my shoes, nor was he in a place to tell me what I could or could not do!

So, because of that exchange, Finding Becca: The Remembrance of My Juicy, Passionate, Divine Self was born.

Writing my story isn’t just about selling a book; it is an opportunity to look over my life, especially the past ten years, and recount all the opportunities I found to open long-held emotional wounds and begin the process of releasing and healing them. It’s also an avenue to remember who I really am and remove all the illusions that I allowed to hold me in places that were less than healthy: spiritually, emotionally, and physically.

Writing my story brought many tears and much sorrow and heartache. I realized how long I had buried those pains deeply inside me and let them stew until the pain became so great I had to let it out. At times it felt as if I was being battered all over again.

Now, with the book nearly finished, I can say that it was one of the best things I’ve done for myself.

I have the cover concept finalized and now just need to take the photos. The forepages are nearly done, and dedications are next. It’s hard to believe that this beautiful baby is about to be birthed into the world. What a painful yet exhilarating ride it’s been!

And now, yes, here’s the shameless pitch!! I’ve started a GoFundMe account to help raise funds to publish my book. I had to swallow my pride in doing this (and shed a few fearful, ashamed tears), but I knew that it was what I had to do to get the momentum going and have the chance to get this book in the hands of those whom it may help or inspire. So, I’m asking you – if you feel so led, I’d be grateful if you could donate to help me get my baby published. If you cannot donate, sharing is just as helpful!

You, my loyal readers, are very important to me, and I cannot tell you how grateful I am for the past two years that you’ve stuck with me and read my blog, commented, and shared (we’ve reached 120,482 views and 171 countries  at this moment!). It’s been my pleasure to share, connect, educate, and inspire!

P.S. Don’t forget to check out the ‘thank you’ gifts on my GoFundMe page for those who feel led to donate!

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Namasté,

Becca